I'm glad my daughter was rejected from an Ivy League college
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Courtesy of Cheryl Maguire
- My daughter planned to attend Brown, an Ivy League school, but was rejected.
- She ultimately decided to attend Fordham, a school that had never been on her radar.
- At Fordham, she found her true passion and lower tuition, so I'm glad she never got into Brown.
"I'm glad my daughter was rejected from an Ivy League college," I told a friend recently.
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Her daughter is a high school junior, currently in the thick of curating a list of reach schools. My friend was surprised by my words. I know I'm supposed to want the best college for my kid, but it's been years, and I see things differently now.
It's also that time of year when many high school students are hearing decisions from the colleges they applied to, so I thought back to when my daughter received her own news.
My daughter was rejected from Brown
Three years ago, my daughter applied to Brown University with early decision, meaning the commitment was binding. If she had been accepted, she would have gone there.
When she first applied, she knew the odds were slim. But the rejection was still disappointing for both of us. On paper and in person, it looked like a perfect fit.
Besides the allure of an Ivy League school with like-minded students, the college checked every box: It was only an hour from home, offered art classes at the prestigious RISD, and, best of all, had no core requirements.
She has always been a "free spirit" who doesn't like being required to take classes, especially when it comes to learning. Losing out on a school that aligned so well with her personality felt like a setback.
It reminded me of the time when my husband and I wanted to purchase a house, only to lose it to another offer.
Fordham crept to the top of my daughter's list
Fordham wasn't even on her radar during her college search, but now she's a junior there. It made the list because it was her twin brother's first choice.
Since he wanted to go there and she had a free application code, she figured, why not just add it to her Common App?
But even after she got in, she still wasn't interested and didn't want to tour the campus. I had to convince her to tag along since her brother was already planning to enroll.
Once she saw the beautiful grounds and the students in Fordham apparel, the college moved to the top of her list. Despite that intense core curriculum, she decided to join her brother.
My daughter is saving money by not going to an Ivy League school
I'll never know if she would have received financial aid at Brown, but since they don't offer many merit scholarships, she likely would have paid full price.
Because she was a high-achieving student at the top of her class, Fordham offered a large merit scholarship to entice her to enroll. It worked. Paying less in tuition means fewer student loans, and in the long run, that matters more than an Ivy.
She found her true passion at Fordham
Freshman year, she started as a biology major. The intense pre-med vibe wasn't what she had in mind for college. A core requirement English class ended up being a game changer.
The author's twins are both at Fordham.Courtesy of Cheryl Maguire
She took a placement test before the semester started and qualified for an advanced class. After excelling in it, the department chair wrote her a letter to recruit her to the major. I imagine that kind of personal recognition is harder to come by at an Ivy League.
Switching to English also opened her schedule. Without the heavy lab requirements of a biology major, she had room to double as an art major, which is another subject she has always loved.
Her success in the major led her to apply for the selective creative writing concentration, which required submitting writing samples. When she found out she was accepted, knowing how competitive it was, she was really happy.
It all worked out for the best
Her senior-year schedule is already set. She's most excited about taking classes with two English professors she already knows, including the one who first recommended her to the department chair.
If you ask her, she's still not a fan of the core requirements. But she'll also tell you that the class she was required to take is the reason she's an English major.
That's what I'd tell my friend's daughter, too. The school that feels like a perfect fit on paper isn't always the one that changes your life. Sometimes the rejection is the best thing that can happen. Missing out on purchasing that house also meant we bought one we liked more.
As the saying goes, "When one door closes, another opens." In her case, as the Ivy door slammed shut, she just had to wait for the host to reveal what was behind Door Number Two: a better major, a lower tuition, and her twin brother. That's a win in my book.
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